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Keep going…

Tuesday, March 6th, 2012

You may be familiar with the TV Show ‘America’s Got Talent’ but did you know there’s also a Korea’s Got Talent? Last week while doing research on YouTube for an upcoming keynote, I came across the story of Sung-Bong Choi.  Even though the video has subtitles, it’s well worth watching!

Sung-Bong Choi’s performance brought the audience to its feet, and even more amazing was his story. An orphan at the age of three and living on the street since the age of five, Sung-Bong Choi’s courage and determination was the only way he survived.  In an interview with CNN he said, “My life was meaningless. There was only one thing that gave me comfort. It was music, not people… I felt calm when I listened to music… music was my only friend when I was lonely.”

He had every opportunity to give up, but instead he chose to keep going.  Through a series of what I like to call ‘synchrodestiny moments’ he found former opera singer Park Jung-So.  Park began training Choi free of charge and also put him in touch with a children’s foundation. Through the foundation’s support he finally had a place to live, was able to attend school and pursue the one constant he had in life, his music.

Choi said he had tried to kill himself and believed he should have never have been born.  Imagine the mental ping pong match he must have been playing in his own mind. He was his worst influence and his greatest champion. I love the quote from Bruce Barton, “Nothing great has ever been achieved except by those who dared to believe that something inside them was superior to circumstances.” How else would Choi have survived all those years?

Have you ever had one of those days or even one of those months where nothing seems to go right? It’s as if your dream is just out of reach and challenges keep surfacing. Do you keep fighting for what you want , shrink your dream to match your progress, or simply give up?  Choosing to give up could be the result of not wanting it bad enough, or giving in to the ‘you don’t really deserve this’ match being played in your mind.

Take a minute to reflect on the goals and dreams you desire. What have you accomplished and what are you still working toward? Remember the most successful people in the world have experienced the greatest challenges and setbacks. The secret to success was never giving in to their limiting beliefs, no matter what circumstances they faced. You are your greatest champion, keep going even if it’s just a step at a time, because you can achieve your goals and dreams. There’s always a way, just keep going……

Sung-Bong Choi’s audition for Korea’s Got Talent

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the four things that matter most

Sunday, August 29th, 2010

It’s not often you write a blog post with tears in your eyes but today is the day.  My mother, Anna Mae, received her wings two years ago on August 29th.  Unlike my father’s passing, my brothers and I knew the time was coming but still weren’t ready to say goodbye.  A friend of mine suggested we read ‘The Four Things That Matter Most, A Book About Living’ by Ira Bock.  It was divine timing and exactly what we needed for guidance in my mom’s final days.

I quickly skimmed the book to learn the ‘four things’ so I could email a brief synopsis to my two brothers.  I also added a fifth that our mom needed to hear from us so she could truly let go.

  1. Please forgive me for………
  2. I forgive you for…….
  3. Thank you….
  4. I love you….
  5. Goodbye… 

“Goodbyes are the thing we dread the most. In saying goodbye we acknowledge an inevitable separation.  Yet life often becomes more precious when we acknowledge our impermanence.  By saying or conveying the essence of The Four Things, even painful farewells can contribute to the history and wholeness of love between two people.  When The Four Things have been said, however goodbye can also be bittersweet, accompanied by a deepening awareness of who we are- of what it means to be human.  When someone close to us is dying, the awareness of this impending, final parting can wrench our soul.  Saying goodbye offers the person we’re parting with our blessing and gives them the gift of our love.” From The Four Things That Matter Most

The emails began flying back and forth with insights of how we were feeling and what was transpiring with each visit to mom’s bedside.  My oldest brother, Steve, sent us an email that summed things up perfectly, “Everything has a time and place to happen, we just don’t realize it until it is over we can’t change the outcome even if we knew what it would be.  Everyone will say their own goodbyes in their own ways and may not know they did.  There are many people in our past that are watching over all of us at this time making sure that all happens as it should.”

Our family was fortunate that we didn’t have rifts to heal.  The Four Things gave us the opportunity to share what was on our heart and also gave us the courage to let go.  My brother was right in looking back that the timing of everything that happened was as it should.  Mom made the decision to leave this world so she could once again be with our father, her husband of 56 years. 

The Four Things can be shared at any time when you feel the need to clear up “unfinished business and complete relationships”.  For additional information please visit: www.thefourthings.org

In loving memory of my amazing parents, Anna Mae and Charles.  I love you and miss you so much……

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